Casual Sex Doesn't Exist

I don’t believe there is such a thing as casual sex.

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It is merely a fabrication of religious and societal programming.

Our sexuality has been hijacked by religious dogma. It taught us that sex is only for the one you’re married to. Anything outside of that is “dirty” or “sinful”.

Sex can be manipulative, goal oriented, selfish, unconscious, disrespectful and used as a means to control or garner a specific outcome. We are constantly being bombarded by sexual images in order to sell products while receiving messages that having sex is wrong.

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This is NOT casual.

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Sharing your body and energy with another person is not casual. When I decide to have sex with a person, I ask myself what is my intention. I also gauge THEIR intention. If it is not matching mine then I do not engage. Have I always been this way? Absolutely not and from experience, when I had sex that wasn’t in alignment with my values or my truth, it never felt good.Even if it is merely a one time encounter, I want to be respectful, loving, kind and compassionate in that interaction. I am true to myself. I follow my body’s signals and open myself up to sharing intimacy with another only if it’s a FULL YES!

Sex is pleasurable. I have sex for pleasure and to share in that pleasure with the other.

Sex is powerful. It can be a way to access higher states of being and of expressing our unique individuality.

My sexual energy and yours can create, not only a human being, but an idea, a piece of art, food, a new way of being on the earth and even a new business. Sexuality permeates the whole universe and it constantly guides the cycles of birth and death so that life may continue.

This is NOT casual!

Sex takes communication, vulnerability, risk and great courage. We need trust and honesty in sharing intimate space.

Sex connects us to our heart and our human emotions.

This is NOT casual!

The only thing that is casual about sex, is our attitude towards it.